How to Coordinate Lesbian Wedding Dresses

Let’s talk tips on how to coordinate lesbian wedding dresses.

We all know that weddings are about the brides, and you both deserve to look equally as beautiful on your big day!

Planning a wedding is no small feat, especially if you’re part of the lesbian community planning a commitment ceremony. But don’t worry: coordinating lesbian wedding dresses isn’t as hard as it looks!

From an endless selection of silhouettes and intricate details to cute personalized touches, there are plenty of options that can be tailored to your unique style.

So today, we’ll talk basic outfit coordination advice, then I’ll give you some ideas of combos that I love!

Let’s get to it!

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Need tips on how to coordinate lesbian wedding dresses? Read on for advice from the planning stage to the small touches, plus check out my favorite looks!

How to Coordinate Lesbian Wedding Dresses

Coordinating lesbian wedding dresses (or any wedding attire for that matter) consists of three basic stages: planning, shopping, and adding the small touches.

Let’s start at the beginning, shall we?

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Planning Your Wedding Attire

Before you even think about what you’ll both wear, you need to decide on an overall “theme” for your wedding attire.

The wedding theme not only dictates what options would be available for you to select from, it influences the rest of the wedding, including the venue, decorations, photographs, song, and even the food.

Dresses run the gamut from simple yet classy sheaths to over-the-top fancy dresses decked out with luxury and lace.

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What type of wedding do you want?

Ask yourselves what kind of wedding you want, because that more than anything determines the attire.

If you’re planning a simple beach wedding, for example, you probably don’t want to go with an over-the-top dress. I mean, you could, but beaches are hot! Do you really want 50 yards of fabric covering your body?

Instead, you might want to go with something like this one:

coordinating lesbian wedding dresses

Likewise, if you’re getting married outdoors in a field, you don’t want a long train that drags on the ground.

On the other hand, if you’re planning a fancier affair, you may want to go with the lace and long train, like this beautiful dress.

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Is there a color palette?

Much like your wedding theme, the chosen color palette would definitely influence your wedding outfit. Playing around with complementary colors can be a great way to tie your looks together. However, you do not necessarily need to go all out when trying to infuse your color story.

Sometimes, being subtle is all it takes to round off a look. For that, you can simply go with shared colors in each other’s outfits or wear the same color but in different shades.

Another point to consider is that certain colors may look better or more flattering against certain skin tones or hair colors. It’s also important to consider the formality and style of your wedding, as certain colors and shades may be more appropriate for a casual outdoor wedding than a formal indoor one.

Ultimately, it’s important to choose an outfit that you want; one that makes you feel comfortable and confident while also fitting in with the overall aesthetic of your wedding.

What do each of you want to wear?

Once you’ve narrowed down your basic theme, it’s time to decide what each of you wants to wear. For example:

  • Do you both want to wear wedding dresses?
  • Does one of you want to wear a suit instead?
  • Do both of you prefer to wear suits?
  • If one of you is wearing a suit, will you go with soft butch wedding attire, a full tux, or lesbian wedding suits (basically, a white suit but with frilly lace and baubles).

There are no real rules when planning your wedding attire, as long as you both agree with the overall theme.  Go with what makes both of you happy, plain and simple.

BUT, do iron out the general details before you start shopping. It’ll make the whole process a lot easier!

Try to go for comfort

At the end of the day, you should only make purchases for outfits that you would be comfortable in throughout your wedding.

If your partner decides to go one route, it is perfectly okay to go the other. The reason for this is that it is as much your special day as it is your future partner’s. So, it’s best to take every step to make things memorable, in this case – getting the wedding dress of your dreams.

For example, if you are not the type to wear dresses in your everyday life (if you find dresses uncomfortable), it probably is a wise decision to not wear one. The same rule applies to suit.

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Shopping for Lesbian Wedding Dresses & Suits

Need tips on how to coordinate lesbian wedding dresses? Read on for advice from the planning stage to the small touches, plus check out my favorite looks!

Once you have a general idea of what you both want to wear, I recommend either shopping together OR shopping with a common friend.

If you’re not superstitious about the brides seeing each other’s dresses before the big day, shop together. That way, you can see how your dresses look next to each other. And, you can make any necessary adjustments.

On the other hand, if you prefer to surprise each other, grab a common friend who can go along with both of you and say, “You know what, this will totally clash with what she’s wearing.”

FYI, this advice works whether you’re both wearing dresses, wedding suits for brides, or full tuxes!

Adding the small touches to pull it all together

Whether you’ll be wearing matching dresses, semi-matching outfits, or totally different attire, the small touches can pull together even the most eclectic pairings.

For example, matching hair accessories can pull together two completely different dresses. Something like this works well if you both have long hair:

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This one is a great if you want to add a little splash of coordinated color, plus it covers your “something blue”:

coordinating wedding hair accessories

Other ideas include:

  • Matching (or coordinated) bouquets
  • Matching your hair accessories to her boutonniere
  • Matching ties
  • Wearing matching shoes (either the same shoes or just coordinating the color)

As a side note on that last suggestion, when I was a bridesmaid at my brother’s wedding, my sister-in-law had us all pick out our own dresses. There were only two rules: they had to be grey and we had to wear the pink shoes that she picked out.

Even with drastically different dresses, the shoes really pulled the whole look together.

Now that you have a general idea of how to coordinate your dresses, let’s take a look at five bride combos that I love. I think it’ll help you get a better idea of what I’ve been talking about.

5 beautifully coordinated lesbian wedding outfits

Still need some inspiration or ideas? Well, we’ve got you covered! Take a look at these gorgeous wedding attire combos!

1. Coordinated trains

Both of these brides chose dresses that perfectly complements their figures and went with totally different “little touches,” but loads of lace and long trains really pull the look together.

If you look closely, you can also see their matching bouquets.

2. Beautiful in blue

These two lovebirds prove that you don’t have to wear white at a wedding to make a huge statement. I love how the suit and dress are a perfect match!


3. Matching accessories

Here is a great example of how small touches really help the brides coordinate their look with matching accessories (the boutonniere and the hair flowers match).

4. A pop of yellow

These brides are gorgeously coordinated, thanks to that pop of yellow! The vest in the wedding suit also plays very nicely with the dress!

I just want to know how she kept that dress train so clean on the beach! Seriously, I can’t even keep a white t-shirt clean in my own home. That’s some major talent!

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5. Gorgeously bohemian

I love everything about this couple’s wedding attire, from the stunningly unique wedding dress to the colorful suit.

If you think they’re not coordinated very well, take a look at the blue flower in her hair. It’s a perfect example of using very small touches to pull together two drastically different outfits.

Before I send you off to follow these tips on how to coordinate lesbian wedding dresses, I just want to repeat something one last time: it’s YOUR wedding, do what YOU want. 

It’s really as simple as that! If you want to wear perfectly matching dresses, go for it. If you prefer to wear totally clashing colors, go for that, too. You and your future Mrs. are the only people who matter on your big day!


Although it may seem like a daunting task, there are many ways to find the perfect lesbian wedding dress for you and your partner.

After perusing our guide on how to coordinate lesbian wedding dresses, you and your partner should feel excited and confident about shopping for the perfect gowns.

Wedding dress shopping is a memorable experience that you’ll cherish for years to come. With these guidelines in mind, go forth and find the most gorgeous matching dresses for your big day!

Do you have any other tips for how to coordinate lesbian wedding dresses? Share below!

Last update on 2024-04-15 / Affiliate links / Images from Amazon Product Advertising API

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