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Looking for the best lesbian wedding vows for your upcoming nuptials?

Whether you want to write them completely on your own or need some inspiration to get you started, we’ve got you covered!

Read on for tips on putting your feelings into eloquent words, including some great wedding quotes from songs to fill in the gaps.

We’ll even give you a few of our favorite examples!

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Amidst the hustle and bustle of planning your upcoming wedding, the wedding vows may slip your mind.

However, vows are an important part of your wedding because they represent your commitment to one another.

Here are a few tips for you to consider if you are writing your own wedding vows:

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Looking for the best lesbian wedding vows for your upcoming nuptials? Check out our guide to writing your own, plus get inspired by our favorite vows!

Don’t put it off!

Don’t wait until the last minute to write them. You’ll need to start writing your vows early on in the wedding planning process, so you’ll have ample time to edit them and make them perfect.

Include the two most important features

Two important features of wedding vows are The Declaration of Love and The Promises.

The Declaration of Love should include a simple statement about what your partner means to you, a few traits that make your partner amazing and a short statement declaring your love for your partner.

The Promises should include a few short statements about what you’ll do for your partner, now and in the future and a promise to always be there for your partner, through thick and thin.

Keep them short and sweet

Keep your wedding vows short, sweet and to the point.

A 20-minute declaration of love and commitment sounds lovely in theory, but your guests (and your partner) will start to drift before you get halfway through it.

Instead, keep them to 1 to 2 minutes long. It is important to note that the average person speaks about 125-150 words per minute.

So, it is best to try and keep your wedding vows to 125-300 words.

Now that you know the basics for writing your own vows, let’s check out some great quotes that you can include!

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Looking for the best lesbian wedding vows for your upcoming nuptials? Check out our guide to writing your own, plus get inspired by our favorite vows!

One way to make your wedding vows unique is to incorporate song lyrics into your vows.

Remember that tip about keeping it short and sweet? Sometimes a simple song lyric can say more in just a few words than we ever could in a long speech!

Here are some awesome song lyrics wedding vows to help get you started:

  • I Choose You– by pop singer Sara Bareilles- “Let the sun fade out to a dark sky. I can’t say I’d even notice it was absent, cause I could live by the light in your eyes.”
  • Kiss That Counted– by folk rock singer Catie Curtis- “Yours was the kiss that counted. The one that mattered.”
  • Love Is Love– by pop, R&B singer Mary Lambert- “I give you my heart, and all my tomorrows. If the road gets rough, I know we’re find our way.”
  • Power of Two– by folk rock duo Indigo Girls- “And if we ever leave a legacy, it’s that we loved each other well.”
  • Time After Time– by pop, rock singer Cyndi Lauper- “If you’re lost, you can look and you will find me, time after time. If you fall, I will catch you, I’ll be waiting, time after time.”


According to the Macmillan Dictionary, gender-neutral language “does not refer specifically to a particular gender and so can be used when talking about people of any gender.”

As the world’s perception of same-sex marriage AND gender-fluidity changes, wedding traditions have changed as well. One of these traditions is the wedding language that is used.

For many years, the traditional wedding vows have included the wording “to be my lawfully wedded husband/wife.”

For lesbian vows, this wording can be changed to something like “to be my partner, my best friend.”

If “partner,” sounds too much like you’re establishing a law firm together,  other words to consider are better half, life partner, lover, other half, significant other, soulmate, spouse and sweetheart.


We all need inspiration from time to time and your wedding vows are no exception.

If you don’t feel that you can pen your own wedding vows, that’s perfectly okay. Here are some examples of wedding vows that you can steal for your wedding:

Olfa Turki
Olfa Turki

Olfa Turki is the founder, owner and managing editor of LoveYouWedding. She’s been called a “tornado” by her partner and those who work with her and for good reason! When she gets an idea in her head, nothing can stop her. She believes everyone should have access to the resources they need to plan their dream wedding, which is why she’s dedicated LoveYouWedding to helping LGBTQ+ couples. READ HER LATEST ARTICLES. Find her on LINKEDIN.

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