Looking for the best lesbian wedding vows for your upcoming nuptials?
Whether you want to write them completely on your own or need some inspiration to get you started, we’ve got you covered!
Read on for tips on putting your feelings into eloquent words, including some great wedding quotes from songs to fill in the gaps.
We’ll even give you a few of our favorite examples!
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HOW TO WRITE YOUR OWN LESBIAN WEDDING VOWS
Amidst the hustle and bustle of planning your upcoming wedding, the wedding vows may slip your mind.
However, vows are an important part of your wedding because they represent your commitment to one another.
Here are a few tips for you to consider if you are writing your own wedding vows:
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Don’t put it off!
Don’t wait until the last minute to write them. You’ll need to start writing your vows early on in the wedding planning process, so you’ll have ample time to edit them and make them perfect.
Include the two most important features
Two important features of wedding vows are The Declaration of Love and The Promises.
The Declaration of Love should include a simple statement about what your partner means to you, a few traits that make your partner amazing and a short statement declaring your love for your partner.
The Promises should include a few short statements about what you’ll do for your partner, now and in the future and a promise to always be there for your partner, through thick and thin.
Keep them short and sweet
Keep your wedding vows short, sweet and to the point.
A 20-minute declaration of love and commitment sounds lovely in theory, but your guests (and your partner) will start to drift before you get halfway through it.
Instead, keep them to 1 to 2 minutes long. It is important to note that the average person speaks about 125-150 words per minute.
So, it is best to try and keep your wedding vows to 125-300 words.
Now that you know the basics for writing your own vows, let’s check out some great quotes that you can include!
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SONG LYRICS TO USE FOR WEDDING VOWS FOR 2 BRIDES
One way to make your wedding vows unique is to incorporate song lyrics into your vows.
Remember that tip about keeping it short and sweet? Sometimes a simple song lyric can say more in just a few words than we ever could in a long speech!
Here are some awesome song lyrics wedding vows to help get you started:
- I Choose You– by pop singer Sara Bareilles- “Let the sun fade out to a dark sky. I can’t say I’d even notice it was absent, cause I could live by the light in your eyes.”
- Kiss That Counted– by folk rock singer Catie Curtis- “Yours was the kiss that counted. The one that mattered.”
- Love Is Love– by pop, R&B singer Mary Lambert- “I give you my heart, and all my tomorrows. If the road gets rough, I know we’re find our way.”
- Power of Two– by folk rock duo Indigo Girls- “And if we ever leave a legacy, it’s that we loved each other well.”
- Time After Time– by pop, rock singer Cyndi Lauper- “If you’re lost, you can look and you will find me, time after time. If you fall, I will catch you, I’ll be waiting, time after time.”
- Forever – by rockers KISS – “It’s forever, this I know and there is no doubt in my mind. Forever until my life is through, girl, I’ll be loving you forever.”
- Hold My Hand – by pop group Hootie & the Blowfish – “With a little love and some tenderness, we’ll walk upon the water, we’ll rise above the mess. We’ll take the world together, we’ll take them by the hand.”
- I’ll Be There – by metal group Megadeth – “I’ll be there for you when you walk through the fire. I’ll be there for you when the flames get higher. When nothing fits and nothing seems right. Until the very last breath of my life. I’ll be there for you. I’ll be there.”
- I’ll Never Let You Go – by rock band Steelheart – “You have angel eyes. Such a smile that lights up my life. You’re a dream come true. Now I’m holding you and I’ll never, never let you go.”
- Love of a Lifetime – by rock band Firehouse – “With every kiss our love is like brand new and every star up in the sky was made for me and you. Still we both know that the road is long, but we know that we will be together because our love is strong.”
- Nothing Else Matters – by rock band Metallica – “Trust I seek and I find in you, every day for us is something new. Open minds for a different view. And nothing else matters.”
- Thank You – by rock band Led Zeppelin – “If the sun refused to shine, I would still be loving you. When mountains crumble to the sea, there would still be you and me.”
TV SHOW AND MOVIE LINES TO USE FOR WEDDING VOWS FOR 2 BRIDES
You can also incorporate memorable lines from your favorite TV shows and movies.
Here are some great TV show and movie lines:
- “I love what you are, what you do, what you try. I have seen your kindness and your strength. I have seen the best and worst of you. And I understand with perfect clarity exactly what you are. You are the one.” – Buffy the Vampire Slayer
- “You are the moon of my life, I shall be your sun and stars. Our love shall be as ever present as those two celestial bodies, even though they are sometimes hidden from one another’s sight. Our love will be the guiding force that charts the course of our tomorrows, holds our world together in difficult times, and will make life itself shine bolder and brighter than we human beings have a right to dream of.” – Game of Thrones
- “I would rather share one lifetime with you than face all the ages of this world alone.” – The Lord of the Rings
- “My dear, if you don’t mind, I would like to join you by your side. Where we could gaze into the stars. And be together, now and forever. For it is plain as anyone can see, we are simply meant to be.” – The Nightmare Before Christmas
- “You and me, we’re in a club right now. You will always be my greatest adventure.” – Up
WORDING IDEAS FOR GENDER-NEUTRAL WEDDING VOWS
According to the Macmillan Dictionary, gender-neutral language “does not refer specifically to a particular gender and so can be used when talking about people of any gender.”
As the world’s perception of same-sex marriage AND gender-fluidity changes, wedding traditions have changed as well. One of these traditions is the wedding language that is used.
For many years, the traditional wedding vows have included the wording “to be my lawfully wedded husband/wife.”
For lesbian vows, this wording can be changed to something like “to be my partner, my best friend.”
If “partner,” sounds too much like you’re establishing a law firm together, other words to consider are better half, life partner, lover, other half, significant other, soulmate, spouse and sweetheart.
PERSONAL WEDDING VOWS SAMPLES
We all need inspiration from time to time and your wedding vows are no exception.
If you don’t feel that you can pen your own wedding vows, that’s perfectly okay. Here are some examples of wedding vows that you can steal for your wedding:
- American Marriage Ministries– Features 10 sample wedding ceremony scripts, complete with vows, including a gender-neutral ceremony script.
- Celebrate Intimate Weddings– Showcases a sample LGBT wedding ceremony script, complete with vows.
- Live About– Features examples of lesbian wedding vows.
- Love to Know– Showcases same-sex wedding ceremony ideas, including vows.
- My Wedding Vows– Showcases over 100 unique, personalized wedding vows.
- Offbeat Bride– Features a huge list of wedding vow examples.
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