Looking for some transgender wedding ideas to help inspire your own big day?
Whether it’s finding the perfect dress, choosing the right rings, or deciding on what to say at your ceremony, we’ve got you.
Read on for some of the most beautiful and inspirational ideas that will get your creative juices flowing!
Transgender Wedding Ideas
Before we dive into our favorite transgender wedding ideas, can we just take a moment to ooh and ahh over this gorgeous couple?
Beautiful, right? How much are you loving their transgender wedding dress ideas? I can’t decide which one I like more, the elegantly simple dress or that stunning lacy number.
Okay, enough oohing and ahhing. We’re here to talk about YOUR big day, right? Let’s get started.
Here are some of the most important things you should consider for your transgender wedding.
1. Have the ceremony you want
I’m stating the obvious here but the best part about your wedding is that it is your wedding. and you hold the ropes. Make it happen exactly as you want.
On that day, what matters most is you and your partner’s happiness. Even though everyone is important, you deserve to be prioritized on your wedding. It doesn’t matter if you want your wedding to be minimalist or extra. Do what makes you happy.
It’s already brave of you to choose love over societal norms, so do not let anything hold you back. You could plan within your means and have the most incredible wedding of all time. Your wedding ceremony does not have to be the gold standard. It just has to be right for you.
When you plan your wedding you should think about how you want it to happen.
Want a simple backyard affair? A luxurious gala-like event? A religious ceremony?
Whatever you want, go for it. Don’t let anyone stand in your way.
Yes, the world is full of small-minded people, but never let that stop you.
In fact, it’s even possible to find churches who embrace ALL couples, so don’t feel like you have to give up your dream of a religious wedding.
2. Get the best genderqueer wedding attire
Growing up, most of us already had pictured how our weddings would be. This included the styling of the wedding attire and accessorries. Although some of them change as you mature, it stays true that your dress choices are unique to your personality.
Think about the Disney princesses. They were bold in their dress and color choices. They were not all put together, but they found a happily ever after with their one true love. Some wrongly assume that the fairy tales princesses had it easy, they did not! Yet, their bold outfits merged with their characters to warm our hearts. Do that for yourself and your guests. Look bold and beautiful on your big day.
Sit down with your betrothed and discuss your dream attire.
Do you want to coordinate wedding dresses? Would one (or both) of you feel more comfortable in soft butch attire?
There are many locations where you can buy the most astonishing transgender wedding dress or suit, giving you the possibility to feel like a Disney royalty.
Just think about Cinderella in her elegant, sleeveless white dress and crystal shoes, dancing with her price until midnight, or Belle in her memorable, yellow dress saving the whole castle.
3. Create the perfect cake
The pastry world has advanced in creativity, and now, you can really have the perfect wedding cake just as you thought it up in your head. Take your time picking a cake for your wedding.
Your cake is a crucial part of your wedding. So, its taste, color, and toppings must represent your personality while making a statement. It does not have to be extravagant, but even simple cakes should be classy and beautiful.
It may be an animation or rustic cake design. Have fun and create memories with your wedding cake. Please stay away from negativity, and ensure your pastry chef knows what they are doing.
Finding the best cake for your wedding may be a tough job, especially with bigoted vendors and bakers refusing to serve same-sex couples.
However, just as more churches are embracing all couples, the vast majority of bakers follow the law and don’t discriminate against LGBTQ+ couples.
So really, the hardest part of choosing a cake is deciding on the flavor and style!
You need to make a choice depending on the number of guests, their preferences and allergies, and your own wishes.
It can be as big as you want it to be and decorated with the most extravagant toppers.
At any wedding, it’s important that everyone has a great time and when the time comes, eat a delicious slice of the perfect cake.
4. Buy the rings
Rings beyond aesthetics represent promises and dreams. Their unending circle assures the spouses of everlasting love.
As cheesy as it may sound, they are a pact with your spouse. So, you only owe yourself and your spouse the perfect ring. Again, it should only be perfect for you and not society’s standard.
The rings should match your personality, preferences, and love story. Any ring can look classy when worn with love. So, pick your heart’s choice rather than aim to impress the crowd when selecting rings.
When it comes to choosing perfect transgender wedding rings, your options are limited only by your budget and tastes.
See every option, decide if you want silver or gold, if you want your rings decorated with precious or semi-precious gems and if they match your personalities and desires.
You can even opt for a silicone wedding band!
They’re super affordable and actually quite classy. Plus, they’re perfect for couples who work with their hands- like doctors, machinists, and such.
5. Make your own rules
Society has a template for wedding ceremonies. Often, these rules cage intending couples, and they cannot have a satisfying ceremony.
So, as a trans, you should make rules for your wedding. You can use society’s ideas but embellish them to fit your wants and preferences.
Of course, you must prepare to meet with resistance and rebuff from rule sticklers. This is quite common, and you must be resolute about your wedding rules. Do not be a pushover. It is wise to listen to well-meaning advice but make the final decision from your heart.
This is the most important thing you can do with your trans wedding.
Follow the traditions you want to follow and leave the rest in the dust.
Some couples choose to have a ringbearer, others will keep the rings on themselves.
Same applies to bridesmaids, groomsmen and flower girl.
There are no set rules for how a wedding should happen and you are completely in charge of your own.
Don’t want to walk down the aisle? No problem.
Organize a circle wedding and have your guests sit all around you.
You want to have seven bridesmaids and seven groomsmen? Go for it!
Your wedding is all about YOU and you alone.
Well, you and your future spouse. Can’t forget them. They’d kind of be ticked if you did!
You get the point, though. Make your day about the two of you and the magic will fall into place.
You always have a choice!
If you don’t want to go through the whole planning process, a wedding planner can help you.
In an article, Joanne Herman explained how her transgender wedding was planned by an amazing person who treated them both with the utmost friendship.
Of course, Joanne was worried because, in a short time, she had to learn everything about being a bride and she wasn’t sure if the wedding service providers would be comfortable with her situation.
But then, she met Bernadette Smith, who knew everything about transgender weddings. She helped her through the process and even found the best dress for her, in no time.
Joanne and her wife, Terry, were fortunate enough to have their wedding planned by a person who understood them.
Who never judged for a minute and was willing to do everything so they could get the wedding they deserved.
Go ahead and choose the best transgender wedding dresses and be the most beautiful transgender brides in the world.
Find your perfect rings and organize the best ceremony.
Create beautiful memories, take a lot of pictures and reminisce about them years later. Everything is possible for your transgender wedding.
Do you have any tips for throwing an amazing transgender wedding? Share below!
Andreea is a very passionate content creator and her purpose is to provide you with the most interesting articles, while constantly discovering new facts. She’s been freelance writing for the past five years and has created numerous articles and educational materials while managing her own blog.