Planning A Non-Binary Wedding? Here’s How to Do It!

Want to plan an epic non-binary wedding?

Well, here’s how to do it!

We’ll discuss the challenges and solutions to help you create your gender-fluid dream day.

Let’s get started!

How to Plan a Non-binary Wedding and Its Challenges

When someone mentions the word “wedding,” many people think of a bride and groom walking down the aisle.

Well, I think that’s a very subjective way of thinking, considering that the world isn’t just made up of straight cisgender people.

However, in this article, I will share with you some tips to plan a non-binary wedding and how to tackle its challenges. 

Let me remind you of something you already know. If you don’t fit in the male-female binary, you may face some obstacles when planning your wedding.

Don’t get me wrong; I’m not trying to scare you, and I certainly don’t think that it’s right.

It’s just the harsh, depressing reality of today’s world. We’re making great progress in changing it, but we still have a long fight ahead of us.

So, if you belong to the nonbinary, gender-queer, gender-fluid, agender community you need to think outside the box to be able to break from stereotypes and organize a marriage of your choice. 

Non-specific Gender Terminology for Nonbinary Wedding

The first thing to do when planning a non-binary or queer wedding is to choose gender-neutral terms.

It’s a bit easy to use gender-inclusive language in most cases.

For instance, instead of using “Husband” or “wife,” you can use spouse for married couples. Also, you could use “spouse-to-be” or “betrothed” for fiance and fiancee in describing an engaged person.

Again, “bride” and “groom” are two terms people find challenging to replace with gender-neutral wedding terms.

However, you can discuss with whoever is planning your wedding and the officiants so that you can come up with terms to use throughout your wedding celebration.

Furthermore, instead of using “You may kiss the bride,” you can simply use, “you may now kiss,” or “and now, seal your commitment with a kiss.”

Using the appropriate inclusive wedding language terminology may be challenging.

But it makes your entire non-binary wedding beautiful and more personal to you.

Choose Wedding Attire

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Choosing non-binary wedding attire is perhaps the easiest part of planning your day!

Repeat these words- “It’s my wedding, I’ll wear whatever I want!”

Whether that’s a dress, a suit, a tux with tails, or jeans and a t-shirt, you and your betrothed alone decide what attire is right for you. soft butch

Whichever way you decide to dress for your wedding, there’s always a perfect attire for you.

But you may face unique challenges if you want to locate a particular formal wedding dress.

Even though designers advertise that they have unisex or gender-neutral clothing, they often end up offering either masculine or feminine style attire better suited for traditional weddings.

However, if your designers can think outside the gender binaries box, they will come up with the perfect middle ground for your non-binary wedding.

Finding the right vendors

One of the greatest challenges of planning a non-binary wedding is finding vendors in the wedding industry who ally with the LGBTQ+ community.

While some states have laws prohibiting discrimination against LGBT and Queer couples, others don’t.

Even in places where it’s against the law, do you really want someone who isn’t passionate about giving you the best day possible planning any aspect of your wedding?

From cake bakers to right down to the florist, choose people with a genuine interest in making your day special. LGBTQ-friendly wedding photographers are also of utmost importance.

Unless, of course, you want to use your big day as a chance to take a stand. That’s fine, if you do!

If not, though, you’re better off asking friends and family to recommend vendors that are happy to contribute to a wedding of non-heterosexual couples.

When planning a same-sex wedding, always anticipate the challenges and pressure.

But know that the wedding belongs to you and your spouse. So, don’t try to please anybody other than yourselves.

Discuss with your partner how you want the wedding to be, the attire to wear, your wedding venue, and every additional detail. With this, you will have an exceptional non-binary wedding party you fantasize about.

Lastly, you don’t need to rush anything. Otherwise, you will end up making mistakes.

Carry out extensive research, vet your vendors, and give yourself enough time to plan your attire and every little detail.

Have you ever planned a non-binary wedding? Share any other tips you have below! 

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