10 Gender-Neutral Wedding Cards & Invitations That Prove Love Always Wins

Finding gender-neutral wedding cards and invitations can be tricky, since much of the world hasn’t caught up to modern times. Even gay and lesbian wedding cards usually focus on one gender. For example, “Mr and Mr” or “Two Brides.” What about gender-fluid couples, though? What are your options for invites? How about cards to give your favorite gender-norm-busting couple? We’ve got you covered on both fronts below.

What is a wedding card?

Depending on who you ask, a wedding card is one of two things: an invitation or a congratulatory card. The first is actually easier to find, since you can typically customize them with your names, completely leaving off gender-specific “Mr.” or “Mrs.” titles. The later is a bit trickier. Very often, these cards have gender (literally) written all over them. Often in the form of “Mr and Mrs”. So, I went searching for some which don’t have that – so you don’t have to.

Here are some of my favorites, starting with the invitations. Then, we’ll check out a couple of the gender-neutral congratulatory wedding cards that I found.

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1. The wooden plaque

Again, no mention of gender, rightfully. No “future Mr and Mrs” printed onto the card. which is really refreshing.

If you’ve been searching around for suitable wedding cards, you may be having difficulty. The market is flooding with those terms, which exclude so many people.

I love this wooden wedding card – it looks so natural, and is so unique and different. What could be more gender-neutral than a piece of wood?

These will be a joy to receive and read, and may be appropriate for your theme. There are delicate followers featured on this card, but they don’t scream FEMININE or MASCULINE. In my opinion, it’s all a perfect balance, and very neutral.

What do you think?

2. The mini calendar

How cute are these? A mini-calendar and a mini-pencil. These will go down great with all your potential guests.

The idea is pretty similar to a save-the-date, now that I think of it. However, it isn’t exactly a save-the-date. Let me explain.

So, a save-the-date is more like a notice that you have set a date for your big occasion. It doesn’t necessarily mean the person is invited, but who sends one of those to people they don’t want at their wedding, right? In any case, the relevant kind of save-the-date may be artfully done as a calendar clip in an envelope.

The mini calendar invitation, however, is a cross between the save-the-date and a normal invite. It’s a neat idea—wedding invitations as an art form. Also, your invitee gets a pencil they can use or give to their kids. They’re just the right size to stick into a day planner, too. So, make that a tribrid of a save-the-date, an invite, and a pre-wedding gift to the invitee.

3. Pencil us in

This is like a pre-wedding invitation and is close to a save-the-date or min-calendar invitation. The big difference is in the exact format and the number of pencils. A pencil-us-in is usually in the form of two pencils—one partner’s name engraved on each—and, sometimes, a small card containing the date. The invitee can then mark the date on their own calendar. However, you can also add a small calendar, which, one might say, will make it a mini-calendar pencil-us-in

This is a great little idea, as it allows your invitation to be less flashy and more informative. Again, this is totally gender-neutral, and your invitee gets two little gifts from you. It gives your guests the date (on the card or calendar) to ensure that they will pencil it in. There is also room for variety, as you can see from the card addition I suggested above. You can choose from a variety of pencils and material types. Your pencil-us-in can come in marble, chalk, and kraft, giving you a few options to fit your theme/aesthetic.

4. The faraway wedding

Maybe you have decided to hold your wedding ceremony in some exotic location far from home. Or maybe you have friends who live far away but who you would like to attend your wedding. If that describes you, then a wedding invitation customized for such makes perfect sense.

The idea is pretty simple: an envelope containing a map with your wedding location marked on it—or better, a transport-themed souvenir, such as a small plane. This will be a small gift to those invitees who can’t make it as well as ample notice to those who can. This is a great way to keep your guests remembering.

Small suggestion: If your invitees are in-country, and high-speed rail is popular, you can get a small train souvenir instead. A plane or train that doubles as a magnet will be a lovely keepsake. I’m also a big fan of the map behind the plane, as it can come in handy for other uses.

Again, no gendered terminology, which is just perfect.

5. The gig ticket wedding card

If gigs are your thing, how amazing would this be? Not only does it have “you” screamed all over it, but it’s also so creative and unique. Your guests will love this. Don’t worry, these are made to order and so that “bridesmaids and the groomsmen” can absolutely be changed.

6. The magnet wedding card 

Look at these amazing magnets, that double as a wedding card

Related: Gay Wedding Anniversary Cards

Related: Gay Wedding Anniversary Cards. These are totally customisable too. They even offer a “change the date” for those affected by the pandemic. How smart. I love the suitcase one for all those faraway weddings, and the gorgeous leaf one, too. They also just have circles and squares – keep it simple, keep it gender-free.

7. Cute Penguins Card for a Fun, Quirky Couple

While most people go for the elegant and classy, sometimes you just need something fun and quirky! These adorable penguins declare their absolute joy for the happy couple. Use the blank interior to share your own well wishes.

8. Congratulations, Lovebirds

I adore this one because it’s both cute and elegant. Here’s an interesting fact about lovebirds- they are all for “love is love.”  In fact, they’re on a long list of birds who find love with the same sex. There are also quite a few birds known to be highly gender fluid, such as the Ruff. If you and your partner are gender fluid, one of these will be very apt on your card. So, what seems like a simply cute card is actually one with a powerful underlying message.

9. You Found Your Person Card

Cute designs, flowers, and magnetic planes are a great idea, but what if these just aren’t your thing? If you favor elegance in simplicity, this beautifully stated and simply elegant greeting card may do the trick. Who knew Grey’s Anatomy would create such a major trend when Cristina said to Mer, “You’re my person,” right? Of course, you can try “You’ve found your other half,” or any other form that is more to your taste.

10. Mx and Mx Non-Binary Card

Designed by “two queer brides in Brisbane, Australia,” this one is a very simple yet darling non-binary card that replaces the outdated “Mr” or “Mrs” with “MX.” Interesting side note, while the title only recently caught on, it was actually created back in 1977 as a “a gender-neutral honorific for those who don’t wish to be identified by gender.”

Final Thoughts

The world is still not where it needs to be regarding versatility in gender references. It will eventually, but in the meantime, there is no reason you can’t have your wedding invitations and cards tailored to suit your gender references. Whether you are gender fluid or neutral, we hope that you have found some great ideas for your ideal wedding invite or congratulatory card here.

What are some of your favorite gender-neutral wedding cards? Share below!

Last update on 2025-05-23 / Affiliate links / Images from Amazon Product Advertising API