If your fiancé has a birthday coming up, one great way to show appreciation is by creating a public happy birthday post. For your fiancé and you, this can be a wonderful (and free!) way to pay homage to your number one person while also hyping your wedding at the same time. Who says it’s wrong to get your guests a little extra excited before the big day finally arrives?
When creating a happy birthday post for your fiancé, it’s important to personalize it and showcase your love story. Share a heartfelt message that highlights their qualities and the special moments you’ve shared together. Avoid generic or cliché expressions and instead opt for genuine and meaningful words that truly capture your feelings.
In this article, we will touch on some of the most thoughtful ways to celebrate your partner that transcend a simple card and box of chocolates. Read on for what to do for a happy birthday post for fiancé and what not to do!
My Fiancé Doesn’t Like Birthday Parties…What Do I Do?
Especially for eager and avid party planners in the group, it can be hard to hear our partner when they request a party-free birthday. The important thing to do here as their partner is to honor their words. Understand that this is probably not a reverse-psychology plea for you to plan an epic surprise party for them. Some people prefer to keep things simple for their birthday.
It can be hard to practice self-restraint here and you may even delude yourself, thinking, “They don’t mean it,” or “They don’t know what they’re saying.” But listen, your fiancé’s probably pretty smart. They probably know exactly what they’ve asked for.
As their future “forever person,” your job is to put yourself in your fiancé’s shoes and ask yourself what their “perfect day” would be. Whether this includes a quality cappuccino from your local coffee roaster, a hike with a view, a massage, snuggling the dog or a whiskey tour at your local whiskey bar, there are many ways you can celebrate your loved one while still respecting their boundaries.
It’s up to you to get creative with making their “best day ever,” dreaming up tasks like putt-putt golf, skydiving, pedicures, dinner at a local restaurant, etc. When in doubt, ask flat out!
How to Make the Perfect Happy Birthday Post for Your Fiancé
One way you can raise the bar in your relationship is by making a thoughtful happy birthday post for your fiancé. The right pictures and words can be a powerful testimony of your love and appreciation for your “partner in crime” and can sometimes be more meaningful to your lover than store-bought gifts. Never underestimate the power of a well-crafted birthday post!
So, how do you make the perfect birthday post for your fiancé? Here is a basic birthday post formula to consider following:
Select between 3-7 meaningful photos from your time together:
These can be professionally-taken photographs, iPhone selfies of the two of you, goofy pictures, vacation pictures, pictures of your hunny doing their favorite hobby—whatever you think best encapsulates the spirit of their personality and the nature of your love.
Assemble them in an order that tells the story of your relationship:
You could always put them in chronological order or you could create a “vision board” of “how it’s been” versus “how it will be going” to manifest good times to come with your sweetheart. Whatever you do, select flattering pictures that put you and your lover in the best possible light and exhibit an attitude of playfulness — keep things light hearted if that is how you feel!
Express how many years you’ve been together and what the experience of getting to know them has been like:
You could say when you met your fiancé and what events were going on in the world (i.e., Covid lockdowns, current presidents, traveling, band performances, etc.) or when (and how!) you knew you wanted to continue getting to know them as a person.
Somewhere in there, express gratitude for crossing paths with them and mention your upcoming wedding:
You don’t necessarily have to write an epic love poem in your social media post that would rival the likes of Sappho. Speak from the heart and let them know how lucky they make you feel. If you have a wedding website, now is a good time to link to it — or at least mention the upcoming big day.
Reveal the number of rotations around the sun they’ve been on the planet and let them know you’re looking forward to witnessing many more:
In this section, acknowledge the years they’ve been on earth bringing love and fun to those around them, how they’ve inspired you to be better and how you’re looking forward to witnessing where their path takes them next. Don’t forget a heart emoji or two!
Best Social Media Platforms for Your Fiancé’s Birthday Post
Now that you have the basic formula for a no-fail fiancé birthday post, you’ll have to decide which social media platforms you think will best convey your message. Keep in mind you may need to write different summaries and choose different photos to cater to the vibe of the platform.
For example, a birthday post on Indeed might be exclusively professional headshots, a summary of their professional achievements and a statement of dedication, pride and gratitude. However, when most people think of “romance,” Indeed isn’t exactly at the top of the list. Here are a few social media platforms that can be awesome spaces to write a happy birthday post for your fiancé:
1. Instagram:
Of course, the path of least resistance here is Instagram. Using their options to create a post, it’s super simple to put together a thoughtful birthday homage in just a few minutes! This can bring birthday felicitations to friends who might not have known and bring a smile to your loved one’s face! Don’t forget to tag them in your favorite picture of their smile.
2. TikTok:
Whether you read your monologue out loud and splice in pictures from your time with your hunny or create more of a slideshow with voice overs or text, try making a fun, warm video that will blow your sweetheart away with your thoughtfulness and care. Whatever you do, stay on topic and keep the video about them and what they mean to you.
3. Facebook:
While decidedly a little slower-paced than some of the other social media platforms, Facebook can be a great platform for reflecting on life accomplishments, losses or life gains with family, friends, acquaintances and everything in between. You can write as much or as little as you like here, so if you have a lot to say about your partner, this would be a great platform to do it — and your loved one’s family members might be even more likely to see your post as well, passing on their congratulations.
4. Start a Twitter thread and/or hashtag:
Now that we have a formula for success, might we suggest breaking the formula? You could always “spam” your love for your sweetheart using a series of loving and celebratory tweets. Consider starting your own hashtag but make sure any personal pictures remain relatively autonomous, for safety’s sake — as you never know who might be watching!
5. Make a YouTube creation and share the link across multiple platforms:
Whether you edit together a video montage of your lover, create a stop motion video to their favorite melody or sing a hand-written song of your own devising, it’s hard to argue with the thoughtfulness of a well-crafted YouTube video. While this is the most time-consuming suggestion, it is easily shared across multiple social media platforms and will always be accessible on your channel — unless you wish to delete it. Maybe it’s time for a new family tradition?
How Not to Write a Happy Birthday Post for Fiancé
When writing a birthday post for your fiancé, it’s generally best to keep things short and sweet. While it’s always heartwarming to hear of other couples’ successes, there are several key points to avoid when making a birthday post for your fiancé on social media. Here is what not to do when expressing your love and gratitude publicly on social:
1. Don’t ramble too long:
Keeping it short and sweet is recommended! Remember, the fact that it’s your partner is the main focus of the day — not you or your feelings. Be sincere, but don’t be saccharine or carry on for too long. Your primary role is to remind the world how awesome your partner is and leave the rest to the hive brain.
Stream-of-consciousness writing is not best here — have a plan. Write an outline if you need to, then slim it down. The more you can condense meaning into your words, the better. Edit it like you would a love poem until you’ve got a distilled summary of your relationship.
2. Do not disguise a negative post as a happy birthday post:
We get it — there’ve been some challenges to overcome in the last year. But the point of this birthday post for your fiancé is not the moment to complain about all you’ve overcome or bring up politically divisive topics! Keep it positive and, if you can, lighthearted and fun. People need reasons to smile right now more than ever.
3. This is not the time to mention anything about YOUR life or achievements:
Now is the moment to keep the limelight on everything there is to love about your fiancé! Do not talk about personal achievements, plug upcoming projects, link to personal business profiles, etc. If anything, make sure to link to your sweetheart’s projects, goals and personal endeavors.
4. Do not write a post from the position of “trying to go viral”:
Keep it real, people. This is about your number one, not likes, shares or hashtags. There are plenty of other opportunities for you to create viral content — but plastering your partner’s face all over a birthday post is not the best time to do this, especially without their explicit consent.
5. Do not divulge details too personal:
We all love a little mystery in life, and sometimes, the most important things are better left unsaid. No one will understand why the two of you are together anyway, in all likelihood — only you and your sweetheart know what passes between you in intimate spaces. Keep your praise sincere but general and PG-rated for the sake of Grandma and Uncle Jack.
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It Is Your Responsibility to Know Your Partner and Their Comfort Level
In summary, you may know your partner better than anyone on earth — barring perhaps their parents, siblings or immediate family members. When creating a happy birthday post for your fiancé, put yourself in their shoes and try to empathize with what they would be comfortable with you sharing and what is better left in the iPhone photo album.
When posting online, especially about other people without their prior knowledge, it’s important to consider consent as you do so. Do your best to ensure your partner is comfortable with the words and photos you share and that the post will bring a smile to their face first and foremost. After all, it is them you are trying to impress, and it is their birthday. Today is the day their wants and needs get put first.
Whatever you say about your fiancé, you are planning on spending the rest of your life with this person — so they must be at least somewhat special to you! Create a post reflecting that, speak from the heart and chances are you will have yourself a beautiful, touching birthday gift to share with your family and friends — without spending a single dime!
Serena & Dominic are a married couple and parents to 3 wonderful children. They plan weddings, run multiple small businesses, and curate wedding events.
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