Planning a wedding is stressful. You may wonder how your families will act together or be financially stressed about the budget. There are decisions like where the wedding will be held, how many guests to invite and who they are, who you want to ask to be your best man or maid of honor and various other aspects that you have to decide on.
This can take a toll on your overall mental health. However, if you feel like your mental health issues are getting in the way of your wellbeing, you may benefit from therapy. Check out this article to learn more about online therapy.
Wedding Planning & Mental Health: What You Need to Know
It can often be surprising to discover that a wedding, a symbol of happiness and love, can be so stressful and demanding. Brides and grooms often put pressure on themselves to be perfect at their wedding ceremony. The tips below will help you focus on your mental health during your wedding planning.
1. Let go of the idea of perfection
Of course, we want everything to be beautiful and want everyone prepared for our big day. However, it is important to realize that there may be small issues that pop up every now and then. Perfection is an impossible goal. Instead, focus on doing your best.
2. Practice Self-Care
During these stressful times, it is important that you do not lose track of caring for yourself. Keep eating healthy and exercise regularly. You may even want to use meditation or other mindfulness techniques to ease your anxieties.
3. Share your feelings with your partner
It is also a good idea to communicate with your partner. Let them know that you are feeling stressed or depressed. Talk with them about the cause of the worry or fear. They may even be feeling the same types of emotions.
4. Take a break
Sometimes we could all just use a break. Take time to enjoy things that are not related to the wedding. Go on a walk, watch a movie, read a book, or go on a date.
You may even benefit from avoiding the internet or other electronics like a TV, laptop, or phone. Turning these things off can help us relax because we are not constantly thinking that we could check them or look at our to-do list.
5. Ask for help
There is often too much to do to take care of everything yourself. Ask your friends and family to pitch in. You can ask them to decorate or make place cards. They may go to the post office to send off the invitations. Anything to take the entire load off of you and your fiancé.
6. Savor your big day
On the day of your wedding, you also need to make sure to spend time with your new husband or wife. You likely will not have much of a chance to spend time along with them during, or even before, the wedding.
Take some time to savor the vows and celebrate your love. You will probably want to say “hi” to everyone at your wedding, but make sure that you eat and breathe.
7. Put yourself first
Remember that a wedding is not worth sacrificing your mental health or wellbeing over. Enjoy yourself first, make the day memorable second, and make it enjoyable for your guests third.
However, you can do all these things without sacrificing your happiness as long as you take it a little at a time, talk with your fiancé, friends, and family, and make time for yourself. Even if you have to go to a room for a few minutes to breathe and clear your mind on the day of your wedding, it will be okay, and your memories will last a lifetime.
8. Look forward
When your wedding is over, the next phase of your life may seem unfocused or even boring. You spent up to a year or even longer planning for the wedding with your new husband or wife. However, you should focus on your future together and everything that it will bring.
Look forward to your honeymoon or your first pet, child, or home together. There is so much to look forward to even after the wedding is over and you are back at home.
9. Hire a wedding planner
If everything is too much for you, and you have room in your budget, you may want to hire a wedding planner or other professionals to take some of the burdens off of your shoulders. They can design a framework suited for you and your fiancé. They can help you schedule appointments.
Final Words on Wedding Planning & Mental Health
Wedding planning can take a toll on our mental health, but it is important to put it into perspective and cherish it for what it truly is, the beginning of the rest of your life. There are so many things to consider when you plan a wedding but work on them a little at a time instead of letting these things overwhelm you.
If you are still anxious or depressed while wedding planning, you may benefit from speaking to a mental health professional. Take some time for yourself and talk to your fiancé about your mental health concerns. Finally, take your beautiful journey one step at a time.
About the Author
Marie Miguel has been a writing and research expert for nearly a decade, covering a variety of health-related topics. Currently, she is contributing to the expansion and growth of a free online mental health resource with BetterHelp.com. With an interest and dedication to addressing stigmas associated with mental health, she continues to specifically target subjects related to anxiety and depression.
Do you have any other tips to help preserve your mental health during wedding planning? Share below.
Olfa Turki is the founder, owner and managing editor of LoveYouWedding. She’s been called a “tornado” by her partner and those who work with her and for good reason! When she gets an idea in her head, nothing can stop her. She believes everyone should have access to the resources they need to plan their dream wedding, which is why she’s dedicated LoveYouWedding to helping LGBTQ+ couples.