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Want to throw an epic wedding shower for two grooms that they’re remember for the rest of their lives?

Let me give you a hand!

Below, we’ll talk about everything from etiquette to fabulous gay wedding shower decorations to gift ideas and beyond.

Let’s start with the basics, shall we?

Want to throw an epic wedding shower for two grooms that they're remember for the rest of their lives? Read on for decor tips, gift ideas & more!

Gay Wedding Shower Etiquette

Let me tell you a little secret. When it comes to planning a wedding shower for two grooms (or two brides, a bride and groom, or any other combination) there really aren’t and “rules” per se.

As long as you throw an event that makes the couple happy, anything goes.

Martha Stewart Weddings says as long as you have guests, food, and gifts, the rest is up to you. I totally agree.


However, I do have a few etiquette tips to consider, so let’s briefly go over them.

  • Make sure the couple actually wants a party.
  • Open the guest list up to both sexes UNLESS the grooms specifically ask for a single-sex party.
  • Don’t step on any toes. If you’re not in the wedding party, ask the Best Men or Maids of Honor (whatever the case may be) if it’s okay for you to throw it.
  • Give plenty of notice. Etiquette dictates that invites should go out 6 week before the shower. If it’s a sort of last minute thing, though, try to give guests at least two weeks.
  • Be tasteful. A wedding shower is not the same as a bachelor party. In other words, now is not the time for straws shaped like male anatomy. Remember, grandmothers come to showers!

As you can see, most of the “rules” are just common sense and good manners. I know you have both, so let’s move on, shall we?

Planning a Wedding Shower for Two Grooms

Okay, now we get to have some fun! Remember what I said above though, a wedding shower is NOT a bachelor party.

So while fun will certainly be had, it’ll be the kind that grandma can enjoy.

Gay wedding shower decorations

Want to throw an epic wedding shower for two grooms that they're remember for the rest of their lives? Read on for decor tips, gift ideas & more!

Let’s start with the decorations. While they’re not as essential as gifts, guests and food, the right decor can really make or break a party.

The first 6 ideas are fairly color-neutral and go great with any theme.

Then, I shared two great decor sets for a blue color scheme as well as two for a black and white “Tuxedo” theme.


1. EnGAYged Wedding Banner

EnGAYged Wedding Banner

Here’s a simple yet fun banner that goes with pretty much any color scheme.

While it may seem more appropriate for an engagement party, if the couple skipped that it definitely works for a shower, too.

2. He Said Yes Banner

he said yes gay wedding banner

Another cute banner that works well for both an engagement party or a wedding shower, this banner comes in 25 different colors to perfectly match your theme.

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3. Mr and Mr Rose Gold Balloons

Mr and Mr Rose Gold Balloons

I’ll be honest, I don’t really feel like this one will go with a whole lot of color schemes.

That said, it’s a fun little touch for right above the happy couple’s table. The Mr & Mr are in rose gold, while the heart is in red.

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4. Groom to Be Chair Banner

groom to be wedding shower decorations

One of my favorite gay wedding shower decorations is this simple yet stylish chair banner.

The neutral colors with the pop of teal go great with your other decor. If you’re having a joint shower, grab two!


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5. Mr & Mr Confetti

Mr Mr Confetti gay wedding shower decorations

It really is the small things, like sparkling confetti, that pull a whole shower decor look together.

If you don’t love the gold, it’s also available in silver.

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6. Rainbow “Cards” Banner

gay wedding shower decorations rainbow cards banner

Here’s a cute way to bring in a hint of the rainbow Pride flag without going all ROY G BIV (for those who don’t remember elementary school, that’s how we remember the colors of the rainbow).

The listing is for the banner only, so you’ll need to grab your own box for the cards.

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7. DIY Blue Balloon Garland & Arch Kit

DIY Blue Balloon Garland & Arch Kit

So far, we’ve been looking at smaller touches that pull together all your gay wedding shower decorations. What about the big touches, though?


That’s where this balloon arch kit comes in to play. It’s perfect for a blue and gold party theme.

DIY Blue Balloon Garland & Arch Kit, 135pcs Party Decorations Balloon Set, Navy Blue & Golden & Sequin Gold & White Balloons for Baby Shower, Wedding, Birthday, Graduation, Anniversary Organic Party …
  • ♡Package Include - Latex Balloon Package (40pcs 10inch/ 20pcs 5inch Navy Blue balloons + 20pcs 10inch/ 10pcs 5inch White balloons + 15pcs 10inch Golden balloons + 20pcs 12inch Sequin Gold balloons).
  • ♡Whole Balloon Garland Accessories Kit - (1 roll of 16feet arch balloon strip tape + 2 balloon tying tools + 1 roll of 100 glue dots + 1 roll of 32feet pink ribbon+ 5pcs of hooks) Recommended to purchase an electric balloon air pump separately.
  • ♡Easy DIY Balloons Garland & Arch - Simply assembly within 30 minutes, creative and liven up your parties with your awesome idea. You could DIY any style you like, DIY it as a balloon garland kit, or sticky on wall decoration, or tie up with ribbon strip, or put on table etc.
  • ♡Party Balloons Decoration Set for Any Event - Decorating balloons at any of your celebrations! Perfect for oh baby showers, weddings, graduations, anniversaries, corporate events, engagements, BBQs, photo shoots and more!
  • ♡100% SATISFATION SERVICE - Warm Remind - There is a instruction in package, you can follow them to assemble the balloon garland, and we suggest not fully inflate balloons, blowing up balloons in different size looks more perfect. We 100% guarantee you would be issued FULL REFUND if you are not satisfied with the balloons set.

8. White and Blue Hanging Party Decorations

White and Blue Hanging Party Decorations

If you’re looking for a paler blue look, these hanging decorations add a fun touch to the room.

The kit comes with a whopping 89 pieces, so you’ll have no problem filling the room with joy!

Kubert 89 Pcs White and Blue Party Decorations Including Paper Tissue Pompoms, Paper Tissue Pompoms, Paper Fan Flower, Paper Lantern & Balloons for Birthday, Baby Shower, Bridal, Weddings & More
  • Paper hanging decoration set with diverse bright color; Good for birthday, party, wedding, home decorations, baby shower and so on
  • Tissue Pompom balls paper tassels and Garlands are a wonderful addition to any party and are so versatile! Hang on tables, walls, in doorways or across aisles. They're also fabulous to use as a photography backdrop!
  • A mixed bright color set that will light your party/wedding/baby shower.Create fun and festive party decorations with these beautiful paper pom poms.
  • Package include:9 pcs tissue paper flowers,2 pcs Honeycomb balls,9 pcs paper lantern , 9 pcs Paper fan flower , 60pcs balloon.
  • Easy to fold. Ships flat.All in one kit and you can make a fantastic look with all these pompoms tassel garland and polka dot garland. Please note that colors can appear slightly different due to various factors: lighting, monitor, manufacturer batch color variation.

9. Tuxedo Foil Balloon

Tuxedo Foil Balloon

On the other hand, a black and white color theme is always classy! Crisp white tablecloths with black dishes looks super upscale.

Grab a few of these tuxedo balloons to scatter throughout the room for a fun little touch.

PIONEER BALLOON COMPANY 15784 Wedding Tuxedo Foil Balloon, 18", Black/White
  • This foil balloon would be perfect for any party or celebration that you might have
  • Balloons will stay inflated (with helium) for up to 1 week! Mix and match with latex and foil balloons to create fun, festive balloon bouquets as easy party decorations that make a major impact!
  • Highly Durable
  • This product is easy to use and highly durable
  • Manufactured in USA

10. Tuxedo Cupcake Toppers

Tuxedo cupcake toppers gay wedding shower decorations

These adorable tuxedo cupcake toppers will go fantastic with the balloon above for your “black tie” party.

Even the classiest event needs a little something fun, don’t you agree?

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Gay wedding shower decorations don’t have to be over-the-top (unless you want them to be).

Even just a few small touches, like elegant floating balloons and confetti, can really make a boring room special.

Now, let’s talk gifts!

Wedding shower gift ideas for gay couple

Wedding shower gifts are a happy medium between the more expensive actual wedding gift and the fun (yet totally not grandma-approved) bachelor party gifts.

According to wedding gift etiquette, you should follow a 20/20/60 rule with your gift budget.

Basically, if you can afford to spend a total of $200 on gifts, $40 goes to the engagement gift, $40 to the wedding shower, and the rest on the actual wedding gift.

In other words, you don’t have to go overboard on a present. You also don’t need to stick to their wedding registry for this one (unless they have a specific shower registry).


Let’s take a look at a few of my favorite gift ideas!

1. Personalized Lanterns

wedding shower gift ideas for gay couple lanterns

Beautiful and practical is the name of the game with these gorgeous personalized lanterns.

Not only do they make lovely home decor, they’re great for when the power goes out!

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2. I Found My Mr. Right Mugs

I’ve seen a lot of “Mr. Right” mugs, but these are definitely the classiest!

One says, “I found my Mr. Right” and the other says, “And so did he!”

Gay Wedding Gift Pair Mugs - Unique Bow Tie I found My Mr. Right... And so did He! (Black - 2pcs)
  • The perfect gift for any newly gay engaged couple or gay newlyweds!
  • One side of the mug will come with Bow Tie & reads "I found my Mr. Right..." with the other side that reads "... And so did He!" - Black Color Tone Mug Combo (Sold in set, 2 mugs per set.)
  • Each mug comes with individual gift box. High Quality 11oz-12oz Black Tone Mugs.
  • ATTENTION: Unique Giftworks Products are made in-house at Vivid Giftworks with very strict QC. Product images represent products SOLD and SHIP ONLY by VIVID GIFTWORKS. Sellers with similar designs at lower prices are not affiliated with Vivid Giftworks, nor are they authorized resellers of our original designs.
  • Microwave & Dishwasher Safe. FDA, Prop 65 & EURO Compliant

3. His and His Pillowcases

Like mugs, “his and his” pillowcases are a dime a dozen, but this set is my current favorite.

The two puzzle pieces each have half a heart inside, signifying that together, they’re whole.

BoldLoft Made for Each Other His and His Pillowcases- Gay Couples Gifts - Gay Gifts - Wedding Gifts for Gay Couple -Gifts for Gay Men- for Valentine’s Day Anniversary Christmas Engagement-LGBT Gifts
  • ♥ GAY COUPLES PILLOWCASES - Set of 2 his and his pillowcases. Size: 30x20 inches. Fits most standard & queen size pillows.. Pillows NOT included. Color: White. Made of Cotton/polyester mix fabric
  • ♥ GIFTS FOR GAY MEN - Perfect gay gifts for gay couple. Gifts for gay men for wedding, anniversary, Valentine’s Day, Christmas, engagement, housewarming, and birthday
  • ♥ GAY MEN GIFT IDEAS - Cute pillowcases for gay couple. Featuring 2 boldly contrasting black and white love cartoon characters which review a love message by combining the design patterns together. They are perfect Valentine's Day gifts, wedding gifts, or anniversary gifts for your men
  • ♥ KEY FEATURES - Cotton blend fabrics make our pillowcases more long lasting, less color fading and wrinkles resistant. Envelope closure keeps the pillow from sliding out the side. Pillowcases are packed in a cute and gift-giving ready packaging box
  • ♥ GAY COUPLES GIFTS - Heart-melted gifts for couples for Valentine’s Day, anniversary, wedding, and birthday. Say I love you in the sweetest, most aww-worthy way! *Beware of Counterfeits - BOLDLOFT is the sole distributor of the item. Ship from USA and packed in BOLDLOFT's signature box

4. Mr. & Mr. Photo Frame

One last “Mr. and Mr.” idea, this photo frame is absolutely beautiful. I love the colors, so much more fun than the typical silver or gold.

If you don’t love the color, you can change it to one of 17 others. You can also leave it as is or personalize it.

wedding shower gift ideas for gay couple frame
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5. Whiskey Decanter Set

Wedding shower gift ideas for gay couple don’t have to say “his and his” or “Mr. and Mr.” all of the time.

This classy whisky decanter set is perfect for couples who love to unwind with a fine scotch at the end of the day.

Whiskey Decanter Set World Etched Globe Decanter Antique Ship Glass Stopper Pour Funnel Liquor Dispenser Spirits Scotch Bourbon Vodka Rum Brandy Perfect Gift (Decanter 850 ml with metal funnel)
  • COMPLETE WITH GLASS STOPPER AND POUR FUNNEL: World etched 28 Oz 850 ml globe decanter with a custom designed ship, wooden base, metal pour funnel and a glass stopper

  • A WORK OF ART, A CONVERSATION STARTER: Each decanter is a skilled artisan’s handblown masterpiece, with a custom designed ship on the inside. Take a trip around the world, as you rotate the globe on its axis. Adds that touch of class to your living or bar décor and is guaranteed to start a conversation!

  • 1 LARGE SIZE (28 Oz, 850 ml) decanter holds the entire bottle of whiskey, wine, alcohol and spirits 2 Tight fitting GLASS STOPPER to keep your drink fresh and flavorful. 3 POUR FUNNEL, to fill up your decanter with no spillage

  • CERTIFIED SAFE and LEAD FREE: Decanter, glass stopper, pour funnel are all certified and meet stringent US FDA norms. Lead free (Unlike crystal)

  • MAKES THE PERFECT GIFT: For men, for him, for her, friends, couples, parents, grandparents, dad, grandpa, husband, boyfriend, father, groomsmen, bride, groom, boss, client, bartender. Across occasions: Birthday, wedding, anniversary, engagement, retirement, housewarming, graduation, congratulations, Easter, Father’s Day, Mother’s Day, veteran's, valentine's, thanksgiving, Christmas, New year. Even for the someone who has everything. You could also gift yourself one, celebrate the fine life!

6. Bottle Opener with Cap Catcher

Bottle Opener with Cap Catcher

Who knew a bottle opener could be so stylish? This monogrammed catcher is perfect for grooms who love to host parties.

It’s veteran-made, so you’re supporting military vets with your purchase. Since half of my family was in the Navy, that’s important to me.

7. Handmade Pottery Mugs

Handmade Pottery Mugs

Sure, you can give a set of fun Mr & Mr mugs, but if you want something a little classier, these pottery mugs are stunning.


This particular set is perfect for couples who love to travel, but the studio makes plenty of others.

8. Farmhouse Noodle Board Stove Cover

Farmhouse Noodle Board Stove Cover

Give the grooms a gift that lets them create a stunning kitchen by hiding the less-beautiful aspects (like the stove top).

This board stove cover is surprisingly budget-friendly for a handcrafted wood piece!

9. Bamboo Wood Charcuterie Platter

Bamboo Wood Charcuterie Platter

Charcuterie platters are all the rage right now. Of course, I always just called them “meat and cheese platters,” but I’m hardly fancy!

Whatever you want to call them, this set comes with everything they’ll need to create a display that looks at great as it tastes.

Bambusi Cheese Board and Knife Set - 100% Organic Bamboo Wood Charcuterie Platter Serving Tray with Cutlery - Perfect for Birthday, Housewarming & Wedding Gifts
  • THE EXCLUSIVE CHOICE FOR SERVING CHEESE: The key to enjoy slices of Italian Ricotta, English Cheddar, or French Vacherin with a glass of wine for holiday entertaining is to have our modern bamboo cheese board. Bordered by grooves that hold crackers, nuts, or olives and designed with a hidden drawer with four utensils, cheese knife. Bamboo-crafted tray makes a perfect serving board for entertaining guests.
  • SPLENDID WITH PREMIUM CRAFTSMANSHIP: Bambüsi cheese tray is handmade with 100% quality bamboo material and superior quality. The nonporous surface of this natural cheese board makes the BEST choice for cheese lovers as it doesn’t stain or absorb odors. It’s a super speedy dinner tray for weeknights and spacious to add salty and sweet foods. Do not place in dishwasher
  • COMPLETE CUTLERY SET FOR GOOD SLICING: The handy cutting knives that come with this bamboo cheese board cut through hard cheeses with minimal effort. They are made of high-quality stainless steel with bamboo handles that are easy to grip
  • AN AWESOME GIFT IDEA: Bambusi cheese tray makes a great wedding gift, we’ve even seen it given as house warming presents, anniversary gifts, Christmas gift, thanksgiving plates, and birthday gifts
  • FEEL SATISFIED OR MONEY BACK: At Bambusi, your satisfaction is what drive us to provide the highest quality products on the market. Our bamboo cheese boards are tailor-made with cheese lovers in mind that exceed current standards that go beyond expectations, if for any reason our product doesn’t live up your expectations, contact us for a replacement or a full refund

10. Personalized Leather Luggage Tags

Personalized Leather Luggage Tags

While honeymoon luggage itself makes a better wedding gift than a shower present, upscale luggage tags are always appreciated.

Grab two (one for each groom) of these high-quality handmade monogrammed tags.


If you don’t love any of these wedding shower gift ideas for gay couple, you can always give cash or gift cards. They’re always needed and appreciated.

Remember, when it comes to throwing a wedding shower for two grooms, the most important thing is to take their tastes and personality into consideration.

As long as you throw an even that you know they’ll enjoy, there really are no rules!

What are your favorite ideas for the perfect wedding shower for two grooms? Share below!

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