Considering having a mixed-gender wedding party but not really sure how to go about it? No worries, we’ve got you covered! Whether you’re planning a gay or lesbian wedding or just want to eschew outdated traditions, our guide will help. Keep reading to learn how to plan everything from the outfits to your strolls down the aisle.
How to Handle a Mixed-Gender Wedding Party in Style
If you look at pictures from old-fashioned traditional weddings, you’ll notice one major theme- women on one side, men on the other. Bridal showers or bachelorette parties consisted of just the girls, stag (or bachelor) parties all the men. The bride would have female bridesmaids, and the groom would have male best men.
Here’s the thing- it doesn’t have to be that way. There’s no rule that says you have to have a male best man or a female maid of honor. So, if you want your sister to stand in as your “best man,” your favorite uncle to serve as “maid of honor,” or just want to include all your friends- guys, girls, and gender-fluid- in your party, go for it!
Obviously, as with everything new – it can be difficult to try to plan/get help planning. There’s not an abundance of information for us to base it on. This is actually fabulous in its own way because we’re making the rules. How amazing is this? So, here’s how to plan your mixed-gender wedding party.
Attire is a big mystery in this case. In the past, bridesmaids would be in a cute dress and men in smart suits. Well, that’s a thing of the past. There are a couple of options you have here:
- Everyone wears suits – power suits are very popular now. This is a great alternative, and truthfully suits look great on everybody.
- Everyone wears the same colors/variations of the same styles.
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For instance, let’s imagine the men wear navy suits with pink ties, the women could wear navy dresses with a pink scarf. Or whatever floats your boat. Remember, clothes don’t necessarily have a gender, be inventive, and make sure everybody is comfortable.
Walking down the aisle
Honestly, it’s not that big of a deal who walks down with who. Traditionally, opposite-sex couples walk down the aisle together – one man from the groom’s side and a woman from the bride’s side. It can feel confusing with a mixed-gender party, but it doesn’t have to be. It’s totally okay for same-sex couples to walk down the aisle together. like who cares, really? However, if this isn’t something you want, just make them walk down alone.
You can be creative about this, too. Make them walk down in groups – how do you want your family and dearest friends to present themselves at their wedding? Heck, you can make them do the chicken dance all the way to the alter. It’s YOUR wedding, you make the rules. I can’t say that enough.
What about the parties
Mixed-gender weddings run into their first hurdle at the bachelorette parties. That being said, catering to a mixed-gender crowd doesn’t have to be difficult, it can actually be a lot easier.
Opt for a less traditional bachelor or bachelorette party, and make it just like all the other parties you enjoy together. Obviously, with a wedding-type twist.
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If you want your typical pre-wedding party, complete with rowdy firemen and a lot of alcohol you can still have this. Give your friends options to attend. Put on a casual brunch and cocktails, that will lead to a heavy, disorderly night. This way they can pick and choose which aspect is their cup of tea.
Again, this isn’t necessarily something you have to do as a group. If you always envisioned yourself getting a manicure with your friends or an old-fashioned shave, just combine the two. Go to one really epic spa or salon that caters to all genders. The key is to ask them, and not just assume.
The bridal gifts
Many brides and grooms give our various gifts to their loved ones. This shows that they care and appreciate everything they do. First of all, don’t stress. If you’ve found perfect necklaces for one-half of your friends, you can still get them! Your gifts don’t have to seamlessly match with each other. A watch instead of a necklace would be a fabulous idea.
If you wanted to get your friends PJs, you can find female and male versions of the same design – that would look so cute for photographs. Otherwise, there is a vast array of gender-neutral gifts floating around. Alcohol, food, interior items – they all work wonderfully.
In general, your wedding is a celebration of your love – which includes the people around you that support you and made everything perfect. It’s up to you to ensure that all your party feels comfortable, and looks comfortable, too.
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Top tip: flowers are a great way to tie everything together. Through the use of bouquets and boutonnieres, everything can flow together, regardless of gender.
Above all, don’t get hung up on gender. Your friends aren’t on any side, they’re there to celebrate the next chapter of your life. Don’t let outdated traditions cloud your judgement. If you want mixed-gender wedding parties, then just go for it! The only way to break outdated traditions is to make new ones!
Did you have mixed-gender wedding parties? Share your tips below.