Looking for some great gay wedding gift ideas for your two favorite grooms?
From simple yet meaningful to over-the-top fabulous, I’ve got you covered with plenty of ideas that will fit into pretty much any budget!
We’ll even check out a high-end group gifts to buy together with other friends & family.
First, though, let’s talk gay wedding gift etiquette, then we’ll check out my favorite presents to buy.
Gay Wedding Gift Etiquette Dos & Don’ts
Whether you’re buying a wedding present for two grooms, two brides, or a bride and groom, there are some things you should and shouldn’t do.
For the most part, gay wedding gift etiquette is exactly the same as heterosexual wedding gift etiquette.
In fact, assuming that they’re different is the first mistake (or don’t). Let me explain.
1. DON’T assume that gay couples want or need rainbow gifts
First things first, don’t assume that every gay couple wants a plethora of rainbow-colored presents or “his and his” gifts.
That’s just a crass (and let’s be honest, prejudiced) assumption.
Think about it this way, would you want a mountain of “his and hers” gifts at your own wedding, or would you prefer things you actually need? Which brings us to…
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2. DO shop from their registry!
I can’t repeat this often enough: couples set up a registry for a reason, so it should be your first stop on your gift buying journey.
If you want to buy something outside of the registry, make it an extra and not the main gift.
3. Do make it easy for them to exchange your gift if necessary
Still want to buy something really great that’s not on their registry?
Okay, fine, go ahead. Just make sure you give them the gift receipt and don’t get offended if they exchange it.
In fact, even if you do buy from the registry, stick the gift receipt (the one without the price) in the box. If they do exchange it, don’t get offended.
Sometimes couples get multiples of the same gift because someone didn’t update the registry
Or maybe Great Aunt May sends them something similar to your gift and they have to choose between returning yours or offended their poor sweet elderly aunt.
Whatever the reason, just make it easy on them buy providing the receipt and not demanding proof that they’re actually using your gift (like saying, “Oh, I want to see how it works, send me a selfie with it!”)
4. DON’T bring it to the wedding unless you’re directed to do so
Unless you’re told otherwise, it’s better to send your gift directly to the couple (which is where buying from the registry comes in handy) rather than bringing it to the actual wedding.
Many venues just don’t have enough room (or security) to accommodate a mountain of gifts. Even if they do, the happy couple’s car most certainly doesn’t!
5. DO give from the heart
Last but far from least, give from the heart. Not your ego. Not your wallet (well, maybe your wallet if they ask for cash), but from your heart.
Don’t feel bad if you can’t afford the best gift on their wish list. It really is the thought that counts, so be thoughtful!
Now that we’ve covered gay wedding gift etiquette, let’s check out some of my favorite gift ideas!
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10 Fantastic Gay Wedding Gift Ideas
Although I said not to go crazy with his and his gifts, I am including a few fun and meaningful ideas specifically for two grooms.
Then, we’ll look at some practical ideas that just about every couple needs (even if they don’t know it!), including a few pricier items for a group gift.
Personalized His and His Gay Wedding Gift Ideas
Check out the tables for a quick peek (you’ll find the second one above #6) then read on for more details.
1. Mr. & Mr. Personalized Bedding
If you’re looking for something practical yet personal, this Mr. & Mr. bedding set is a super cute idea.
Unlike other his and his bed sets that I’ve seen, this set is actually personalized with their names inside the infinity symbol.
It comes with a duvet cover and two pillow cases. It’s a great add-on gift if you’re buying a comforter from their registry.
If you’re not, go the extra mile and include one with it. I like this one because it’s inexpensive yet cozy.
2. Love Wins Melted Crayon Art Canvas Painting
I’ve mentioned this particular item when talking about great lesbian wedding gift ideas and it was a huge hit.
If you want to incorporate the rainbow flag in your wedding present for two men, this is definitely the way to do it.
It’s a beautifully handmade work of art that not only reflects the “love wins” message but also helps support an independent artist.
3. Custom Ceramic Wedding Platter for two Grooms
For a truly unique wedding present for two men, we once again turn to Amazon Handmade and find this original ceramic platter.
The hand-painted gift features the beautiful sentiment, ” I have found the beloved of my soul” along with personalized names and their wedding date.
4. Framed Map Art Heart Map
I’m in love with this framed map centering on the couple’s wedding location (or any location you choose, really).
It’s so personal and meaningful that I can almost guarantee no one else will think of it (so they won’t have two of the same item!).
Plus, it comes in a nice frame so it’s ready for wrapping and giving!
- This digital print is customized to ''heart'' your special day.
- Choose any location worldwide to feature on your personalized heart map.
- Your print comes beautifully framed in a 13''h x13''w x 1.5''d solid New Zealand Pine shadow box frame.
5. Groom & Groom Shadowbox Gift
Another super unique wedding gift for two grooms, this one comes in a few different styles.
You can personalize the names, date, groom colors and even the little heart’s colors.
If you don’t love the palm tree version (which I do), check out other selections on the Paint & Paper Craft storefront.
We focused on the personal (& personalized), now let’s focus on the functional!
Functional Gifts for Every Couple
Below are gifts that every new couple needs, even if they don’t realize it! They may not be as fun as the above gifts, but they’ll definitely be appreciated!
Some of them are pricey, so grab a few friends to go in on them with you if need be.
Again, check out the table first, then read on for more details.
6. Echo Plus from Amazon
The Echo Plus (or the more budget-friendly Echo Dot) is one of those great gifts that you really can’t have too many of.
Well, I suppose you could.
I mean, you probably don’t need ten of them for a 1-bedroom apartment, but really, I have 4 dots in my house and still find places where I think “hey, I could use one in here!”
This baby let’s them do everything from turn on their lights from outside their home to set up the ultimate romantic night in playlist!
- OUR BEST SOUNDING ECHO DOT YET – Enjoy an improved audio experience compared to any previous Echo Dot with Alexa for clearer vocals, deeper bass and vibrant sound in any room.
- CHECK THE TIME AND MORE AT A GLANCE – The improved LED display shows you the time, alarms, weather, song titles and more.
- YOUR FAVORITE MUSIC AND CONTENT – Play music, audiobooks, and podcasts from Amazon Music, Apple Music, Spotify and others or via Bluetooth throughout your home.
7. Wine Chiller
For the couple who loves kicking back with a glass of wine, you really can’t go wrong with a wine chiller.
I like this particular model because it’s relatively compact and designed to fit on the countertop, yet it doesn’t scrimp on the features.
It holds 12 bottles and runs ultra-quiet so it won’t overwhelm the conversation. Go the extra mile by filling it up with some great vintages!
This is one of those gifts that you’ll want to make sure they don’t have, though. While it’s good to have more than one, you can have too many!
- Keeps Wine at The Ideal Temperature – Cobalance tech novelty wine bottle chiller enables to keep wine bottles refreshing for up to 24 hours at the target temperature indoors or outdoors, easily getting red wines to their appropriate temperature of “cellar” temperature 59-64℉ or getting white wines & champagnes close to fridge freezing cold 41 ℉ while keeping it 24 hours.
- Portable Wine Coolers Stay Cold Anywhere – The perfect wine cooler bucket (or champagne cooler bucket) is allowed to keep on your kitchen table, proudly share with your family, friends, and lovers at your family dinner parties or use it to serve wine at a picnic party. It keeps wine cold for longer than a typical ice bucket.
- Simple Elegant Stainless Steel Design with Digital Controls – The wine cooler can hold a single 750ml standard-sized wine bottle. white, rose, red, sweet, etc.This little on demand bottle cooler makes it perfect for use in a small kitchen, backyard, car camping,restaurant,club etc. Fits most traditional champagne bottles like Veuve Clicquot, Moët & Chandon, Louis Roederer, and many more. (Warm Tip: DOES NOT FIT Dom Pérignon or some other wider or taller bottles.)
8. Instant Pot Smart WiFi Cooker
The Instant Pot trend doesn’t seem to be losing steam (pardon the pun) anytime soon, and for a good reason.
This versatile pressure cooker/ slow cooker lets your favorite couple make anything imaginable, even if their culinary skills aren’t exactly as Master Chef level.
I can say that with certainty because I have one and I’m not what one would call a great cook.
This particular model even works with the aforementioned Echo Plus! While I only have one, I’m told by cooking aficionados that you can never have too many!
- Cooks fast and saves time: The Instant Pot Smart Wifi combines 8 kitchen appliances in one: Pressure cooker, slow cooker, rice cooker, yogurt maker, cake maker, Saute pan, steamer, and warmer
- Consistently delicious: 13 1-touch smart programs put cooking ribs, soups, beans, rice, poultry, yogurt, desserts and more on autopilot – with tasty results
- Connected for ease of use: Compatible with Alexa and wifi - control your Instant Pot Smart Wifi in the palm of your hand with the Instant Pot app or through voice with Alexa. Includes access to 1,000 plus pre-programmed recipes and verify cooking progress, share cooker access with family, and receive alerts on your mobile device
- 10-IN-1 FUNCTIONALITY: Pressure cooker, slow cooker, rice cooker, steamer, sauté pan, yogurt maker, warmer, canning pot, sous vide, and NutriBoost
- STAYING CONNECTED: Wirelessly operate and program the Instant Pot Pro Plus over Wi-Fi using the Instant Brands Connect app on your mobile device and access over 1900+ highly rated Smart Recipes
- SIMPLE TO OPERATE: Large, easy-to-read display and intuitive, sensitive touch controls
9. Premium Tool Kit
Now, don’t assume that I’m putting this on the list because we’re talking about gifts for guys.
Every single home should have a really good tool kit, and you can’t get much better than DEWALT tools.
It comes with things like a high-end hammer, drill, and different types of saws.
Basically, the essentials needed for everything from hanging up a picture to fixing a broken window!
- DCD985 20V MAX hammerdrill with patented 3-speed, all-metal transmission and 1/2" all metal ratcheting chuck delivers 535 units watts out of maximum performance, faster application speed, and superior bit retention
- DCS381 20V MAX reciprocating saw with keyless blade clamp in drill/ impact driver combo kit allows for quick blade change without touching blade or reciprocating shaft
- DCF885 20V MAX 1/4-inch Impact Driver as a part of DEWALT cordless tools featrues 3 LED light ring with 20 second delay to provide visibility without shadows
10. A Really Good Coffee Maker
Maybe it’s just my over-caffeinated brain talking, but I truly believe that every coffee-loving couple deserves a stellar combination coffee/espresso maker.
While there are a bunch that proverbial land on my own wish list (did I mention I’m a coffee fanatic?), I’m loving this De’Longhi right now because it does everything and then some.
Make regular coffee with the drip maker side or go crazy with cappuccino, espresso and lattes with the fancier side.
- Enjoy Hotter Coffee: Utilize expert coffee-making technology to ensure your coffee temperature is perfect, delivering a delightful taste experience without compromising flavor or quality.
- Brew Strength Control: Tailor your coffee flavor to perfection by choosing between regular or bold settings, catering to your unique taste preferences with every brew.
- Fully Automatic Coffee Brewer: Experience convenience with 24-hour programmability, offering flexibility with 1-4 cup settings, auto-off functionality (0-4 hours), and an optional ready alert tone for added convenience.
Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ)
Here are answers to questions people typically ask.
How Can You Treat Him Specially Without Spending Money?
There are several ways you can make him feel special without spending. For one, you can create a collage of pictures then go digital and modify it as a video. You can also go on a treasure hunt together, make a customized playlist or enjoy a relaxing movie night with him. As long as you’re doing something different together, he’ll appreciate it.
What Can I Leave My Man with to Remember Me By?
You can do this by giving him something to wear, such as a scarf with your perfume or natural aroma on it that can help him remember you. You might also get a gift for him such as a key chain or a little message written by you that he can carry in his pocket or wallet.
What Gift Is Best for a Boy Marriage?
For a boy Marriage, one can get love mugs, wristwatches, and decor accessories for the home. You can also get apparel, a grooming hamper, or an experiential gift like skydiving or race car driving.
What Distinguishes the Groom?
A simple style for your groom to stand out is to allow him to wear a tie that is distinct from that of his guys. However, both bow ties and long-neck ties are attractive choices in today’s fashion-forward world. Additionally, there are several choices for the layering elements worn beneath your groom’s suit or tux.
Who is Usually the Groom’s Best Man?
Typically, the groom’s closest friend or relation serves as the best man. Occasionally, it’s a brother, childhood friend, cousin, or even the father or uncle of the groom. There are no restrictions on whom the groom may or may not select.
What Surprises Do Men Love?
Most people like surprises. Some ideas include getting tickets to a performance or game, a last-minute romantic dinner date, or a sentimental token of appreciation. You can also surprise him with a surprise sexual dance and put a tiny love letter inside his suitcase for him to find later.
Final Thoughts
There are many don’ts to consider when getting a wedding gift for two grooms such as assumptions that every gay couple wants or needs a rainbow gift and many more.
However, it is vital to find a gift that is a thoughtful and unique item, a gift from your heart, and the couple’s registry. Some great gift ideas include Mr. and Mr. personalized bedding, and a groom and groom shadow box gift.
You can also get a wine chiller, instant pot smart Wi-Fi cooker, and many more. However, whatever gift you choose to get, ensure it is a gift that the couple will cherish for years to come
Nicole is the editor-in-chief and regular staff writer for LoveYouWedding. What does that mean? Basically, she handles all the day-to-day tasks related to managing writers and bringing you stellar content on planning the LGBTQ+ wedding of your dreams.
She loves writing about quirky and unique wedding ideas, probably because she’s pretty quirky herself!
